Fairview Baptist Tabernacle
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 Archived Pastor's Desk 2017.01.29


January 29 - February 4 

Pastor's Desk for this week is a letter from Beth, Johnny and Patty Carr's oldest child.



The Blessings Far Outweigh the Sacrifice


Dear Friends,


As I raise my own children I feel that the longer I am a parent, the more I understand my own parents. I now understand a lot of why they did the things they did when I was growing up. I grew up as a pastor’s child and am now married to a pastor.  I always said I wouldn’t marry a preacher, and I didn’t. God called my husband into the ministry after we had been married for three years. At the time I was pregnant with triplets.  The reason I always said that I didn’t want to marry a preacher/pastor was because I had seen the sacrifices they have to make to serve their church and others, and the time it takes away from their own family at times. They willingly give their time out of love and because they are called to do so, but it’s a difficult sacrifice for them and their families to make all the same.


In my selfishness, I didn’t want to have to make those same sacrifices when I became an adult. When my husband announced his call to preach, everyone else was excited and rejoicing. I was upset and immediately started worrying because I honestly didn’t want myself or my children to have to share him with others. I didn’t want to have to make the sacrifices that come with living in a pastor’s home.


There were times growing up and still today when there were/are things going on within our family that my dad and husband would love to be a part of but they can’t. My husband recently had to explain to our 7 year old son that he couldn’t be at his ballgame because he was preaching in a revival, and it was the same for my dad when I was growing up. There were things he wanted to be a part of, but he couldn’t.  My son was baptized recently, and my dad preached two sermons that morning. Then, he and my mom drove two hours just to see him baptized, before driving the two hours back for dad to preach again that night. He is committed to his church and preaching God’s word to them. Sometimes that comes with hard sacrifices.


 Many people like to travel, and take vacations where they are gone on Sundays. As the pastor’s family, this rarely happens. Vacations are typically planned around Sundays so we can be at church. Also, the pastor usually goes to church no matter how bad he feels. There are no lay out days for the pastor. Can you imagine if the pastor’s attendance was like a lot of church members? What if he woke up and thought I’m too tired to get up and go to church today. I think I’ll just go back to bed. It would be interesting to see how the congregation reacted for sure when they realized the pastor hadn’t shown up.


I also struggled when my husband announced his calling to preach because I had seen the heartache that can come with being a pastor. I remember times when dad would pour his whole heart into sermons that God would preach through him, and no one would move sometimes for weeks or months. He would get discouraged, and mom would encourage him and lift him up. I have experienced that with my own husband now many times. Pastors love their congregations so much, and it breaks their heart to not see them reaping the full benefit of God’s blessings. They want to help lead them to have a closer walk with God, and most importantly their greatest heart’s desire is to see people come to know Christ.  When they don’t see that happening sometimes they get discouraged and would like to just throw up their hands and quit. People like to put the pastor up on a pedestal at times, but they too are just men. They have weaknesses and struggles like everyone else, and they need encouragement just like we all do.


So, you may be wondering why does the pastor do it?  Why don’t they just quit?  They do it, and as the pastor’s family we do it, because God has placed a fire within us to serve others. As Jeremiah said in Jeremiah chapter 20, his word was in my heart as a burning fire shut up in my bones. We have seen God’s love, his power, and his healing, and we want others to experience it.  God has richly blessed us so we want to be a blessing to others. How wonderful it is to see when people do heed to the messages that have been preached, and they do find salvation. There’s no better feeling than seeing someone dedicate their whole life to God and change begins to take place in their entire family. It makes it worth it all!


Yes, at times we have to make sacrifices, but as God’s children shouldn’t we all be willing to make a few more sacrifices to lead others to Christ, and to lift up our fellow Christians when they are down?


Some of my favorite memories with my dad and mom are of going to serve others with them. Whether that was singing at the nursing home services, taking someone who was sick a meal, or buying groceries for a struggling family and delivering them. I learned what it means to have a servant’s heart through those experiences. The Bible says in Proverbs 22: 6 Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it. They taught me to serve others through their example.


Today, I am thankful to have grown up a pastor’s kid, and I am thankful that God saw fit to make me a pastor’s wife. I love serving my church and my community alongside my husband. We will do our best to teach our children to serve others just as our parents taught us. What sacrifices are you willing to make to serve God more, and to teach your children to serve others? The blessings far outweigh the sacrifice!


2 Corinthians 9:6-9 But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully. Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give, not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound every good work.




Love In Christ,


    Beth Carr Jarnigan