Fairview Baptist Tabernacle
Friday, March 23, 2018
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 Archived Pastor's Desk 2018.03.04



March 4 – March 10




Scripture Passage: “Let the lying lips be put to silence; which speak grievous things proudly and contemptuously against the righteous.”  Psalms 31:18   “How long shall they utter and speak hard things and all the workers of iniquity boast themselves?”  Psalms 94:4 


Dear Friends,


     Webster defines resentment as: “A feeling of indignant displeasure because of something regarded as a wrong or insult.”  I have found there is no bitterness as strong and no hurt that cuts as deep as feeling like you have been done wrong, and then resenting the person you feel like committed the injustice against you.  But resentment is a two-way street. The same thing that causes you to resent someone else is often the wrong we commit against others.  Let me give you some scenarios. 


    An elderly parent’s health deteriorates and suddenly requires a lot of attention.  One child usually picks up the task of seeing everything gets done, but after a while feels like they are having to do everything by themselves.  They never ask for help, or when they do they are turned down because of conflicting schedules or preexisting circumstances.  All of a sudden, they begin to resent the parent for requiring so much of their time, (and feeling guilty about it) and their brothers, sisters, aunts, and uncles for not helping more than they do.  Even if those individuals live miles away, they are resented for not having to deal with those family issues on a daily basis. “It all falls on me,” is a statement I hear often.  Sometimes we resent someone when really they may be doing the best they can.


     Another source of resentment can be worldly possessions.  If we live long enough we seem to accumulate an enormous amount of “things.”  Our parents who have been married for sixty years have a lifetime of stuff and every child and grandchild feels entitled to something.  Even though it all belongs to our parents, and they can do with it what they want, it can be a source of resentment when someone receives the item we wanted and had our heart set on.  We may be resented by siblings, even though our parent’s wishes have been followed and we did not go looking for anything.  Once again the feeling is that we have been done wrong and someone is out to “hoodoo” us and get everything by dishonest actions.  I have been on both sides of this fence, and neither is a pleasant place to be.  Patty says it is just stuff and we try to be considerate of others feelings and take the high road where family matters are concerned. 


     Finally, I have seen major amounts of resentment where job promotions and public attention are coveted.  It is hard to take a back seat or be in second place when you have been in the workplace longer than anyone else.  You have pulled your time and paid your dues, but the business is looking for the youngest and brightest coming out of the college market.  Experience and loyalty are often sacrificed for new ideas and youthful enthusiasm.  Promises for advancement are often forgotten and we get stuck in the dungeon of disappointment.  Just remember that everything that glitters is not gold and God may be protecting you from a miserable experience that would destroy your character and sphere of influence.  It may not be what you want, but if you trust God, He will cause it all to work out for your good and His glory.  Don’t let resentment “eat you alive,” and cause a bitter spirit to spring up within your soul.  It will accomplish nothing, and solve nothing, except to estrange you from people who are a part of your life.  Rise above it and learn to be content where you are at this point in your life.  Sooner or later it will all work itself out with God’s help. 


In Christ,


Pastor Johnny






Pastor Johnny



Pastor Johnny